We are officially in the last month of 2024, and naturally, we’re all doing a little more self-reflecting. My clients and I are thinking about our goals, our dreams, and what we accomplished this year. But there’s always that little voice in the back of our heads that tells us we could’ve done more if only we weren’t holding back. 

Limiting beliefs, like the fear of judgment, keeps us from reaching our most aspirational goals. Naturally, we care about what other people think. It’s human nature. But at some point, we have to break free from the fear of judgment and stop caring about other people’s opinions. 

In this week’s episode, we’re talking about the fear of judgment and how to get over other people’s opinions. Whether you’re starting a new business, writing a book, or joining a coaching group, someone will have a negative opinion about it. It’s up to you to focus on your goals and see them through anyway. 

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Episode Transcript:

Erika: Hello, and welcome back to this week’s episode of Chingona Revolution podcast. Can you believe we are in the last month of the year? I cannot believe it’s about to be 2025. If you were listening to this at the time that we’ve released it, you could be listening to it in the future months after this podcast is being recorded.

But if you’re listening on the day that we released this, we are officially in the last month of 2024 going into 2020. Five. What a year. And I know that as we get to the end of the year, it’s natural to start thinking about your goals, about your dreams, about the things that you maybe wanted to accomplish and didn’t get to, or maybe the things that exceeded your expectations.

And it’s naturally just a time when we really start to reflect on the year and we start setting intentions for the following year. As you know, I am a courage coach for women, so I help women do the thing that scares them. And one of the biggest, I would say, challenges that my clients or that my audience faces, it’s not really that, you know, another, I always say like my competition is not other coaches.

My competition is your comfort zone. My competition is you all convincing yourself that you are okay where you are and that you don’t actually want to pursue this goal or this dream of yours, but deep down you really do want to pursue it. And because you’re not pursuing it, you feel unfulfilled or you feel like something is missing.

And I mean, even for you all, right? Your competition is not other people. Your competition is also your comfort zone. So as I think about some of the obstacles that get in people’s way from going after the life that they want, going after the business they want, going after their dreams, it’s many things, right?

It can be the fear of failure. It can be a lot of things, but there is one topic that comes up over and over again. And this is the fear. Of other people’s thoughts and opinions of you this fear of what will people say? What will people think and maybe at a point in your life? You’ve said you know what? I don’t care what people think but We are human beings and human beings are wired for connection.

And the truth is that At some point, we all care. At least what some people think. All of us are actually striving for our parents approval, even as adults. I mean, I’ve worked with clients who are in their 40s or in their 50s, and their parents aren’t even with us anymore, and they still have that desire.

of wanting their parents approval. So what makes us think that if you have a desire to go launch a podcast or create content or start a business or do start dating, right? Especially after a heartbreak or after a divorce and it feels very scary to do so. What makes us think that we wouldn’t worry about How it would be taken by other people, how it would be perceived or what it is that they would say about us.

And I’m no exception. So if you’ve been following this podcast, you know, there’s a lot of different things that I’ve done that have led to courageous action.and one of those things was calling off an engagement. I remember thinking, I don’t think this is my future and I, I knew that there was a desire to leave the relationship, but there was a fear. There was a fear of what if I don’t meet somebody else? What if I end up getting criticized by everybody?And I even remember thinking, what’s his family going to think? What are his friends going to think? I’m going to be the bad person, right? And that was just such a hard thing for me to be at peace with because I knew that I was a good person, but I felt like a bad person walking away. From an engagement, even though now that I look back, I’m like, no, that was the most loving thing I could have done for everyone.

Like, what was I supposed to do? Marry somebody that was wanting different things than I did. And we weren’t going to end up divorced. Like that was going to suck even more than. calling it quits before investing all this time and energy into a wedding.

So this is a story of my personal life, right? This is a story of how walking away from something that no longer served me or quite honestly served them. Like I remember towards the end of the relationship, I was not the most kind person because I was so unhappy, but I was also In my early twenties, and I wasn’t as self aware and Everything on paper looked great.

And then as we’re on the topic of, you know, Oh my gosh, what are people going to think? So my family and my friends actually thought this was a great next step for me. Everybody loved my partner. Everybody was excited for us. Everybody wanted this to work out. While a lot of times our worries of other people can be like, Oh my gosh, what if they criticize me?

A lot of times we’re also worried about people’s opinion with like, Oh, this is the right thing to do. Right. Or like my parents think I should stay in this job or my family and like my partner’s family love us together. So I don’t want to disappoint other people. Or maybe it’s, I don’t really want to take this, um, this opportunity, but my parents think it’s the best thing, or my friends think it’s the best thing, or my partner think it’s the best thing.

So worrying about people’s opinion, isn’t just worrying about them criticizing you. It’s also worrying about. letting them down and doing something that goes against what they think is best for you. So that’s one example for my life of calling off the engagement. But then there was also the business side of things.

And my business started off as a food blog, even though I never made any money from the food blog. Um, and I remember being so worried about the food blog. It took me two years just to start it. And I share this a lot because it’s important because you all hear me talking about taking courageous action and being brave and showing up.

And while, yes, I’ve created, you know, a whole program to help people take courageous action in a short amount of time. That doesn’t mean that I’m not aware of how difficult it is to take that first step. And I thought about the food blog for two years and the main thing that stopped me was people are going to say that I don’t know what I’m doing because I’m not a chef.

What if I try this and I totally fail and everybody sees me fail because I am doing it on social media, people can totally see it. What are my ex’s friends going to think? Yeah, we weren’t even engaged anymore by the time I actually kicked off the food blog, like the official food blog, not just the Instagram page.

And I was still worried about what his friends were going to think at that time, which is a little silly right now. Now I’m like, of course I don’t care. But at that time I’m sharing this. Just to show you that a lot of times these fears may not even make logical sense to us But they are worries because we are human beings and as humans we want to be accepted and it’s not even just oh my gosh I want to be accepted because I want to be liked It’s just being accepted is linked to survival, right?

our brains haven’t changed that much from when we lived in tribes and when we lived in tribes if somebody didn’t want us in the Tribe that meant death Because there was no grocery stores at that time. We needed each other for survival. And even now we still need people for survival. We still need connection for survival.

And this, this thing of, you know, or this fear of what are people going to think about me? is a valid fear. I’m not telling you don’t do anything in your life and worry about other people’s opinion. No, no, no. I’m simply validating that it’s a common thing. And if you feel this, you are not alone. And I’ve shared two different examples of my life, right?

When I called off the engagement, And people, by the way, did say stuff. I remember I had, um, some uncles and aunts saying, Oh, Erica’s making the biggest mistake of her life. She’s going to regret it. She’s going to see that she’s never going to meet somebody like this. And to this day, I’m still not engaged and I’m still not married.

And I will still tell you that this was the best decision for everybody in the circumstance. And I’m sure if we follow that. found him and interviewed him. He would say the same thing because we were going in two different directions. He was ready to start a family and I was ready to start a business.

We were just going different directions. I am a very driven, ambitious woman. I had big goals. I would have been very unfulfilled if I would have just Started a family and not having started this business or this podcast. I knew I wanted to make an impact and I knew I didn’t want to just be a housewife.

And for him, he was like, I already have my job. He had a job that kind of gave him a, uh, some type of pension. So he was just ready to start a family. And he was in his, he was a little older than I was, but for him, he was like, I want to have kids before the, before I’m 30 or something like that. I don’t remember exactly what, what age he had mentioned.

And for me, I was like, I want to travel. I don’t even know if I want kids yet. Right. So again, nothing wrong with either of us, but we were two amazing people, two Loving people going in very different directions. And I think neither of us had the awareness to realize that the other person’s desires weren’t wrong.

They just didn’t match up what he wanted. There was nothing wrong with that. And what I wanted, there was nothing wrong with that. And neither of us had the awareness know that we wanted very different things. And even when I called off the engagement, I, I don’t even think I fully had the awareness now that I’m looking back.

I’m like, Oh yeah, duh. It makes so much sense. But when you’re in it, it’s really difficult, especially if everybody is telling you how excited they are for you and whatnot. So I’m on a whole ass tangent here. Let’s reel it back. So what if people do say stuff? So people did say stuff about this engagement.

People said. They were super excited for us. And then once I called it off, I remember, um, yeah, an aunt and uncle made a, made a comment about how it was the biggest mistake. And then, uh, I remember we also, my cousins and I went to a trip, went on a trip to Lake Tahoe. If you are from The California or Nevada area, it’s kind of like the mountains and we were there in the winter.

So it was snowing and we got a cabin and we were all playing games. And then one of my cousins made a comment with like, Oh yeah, you could have somebody here, but you decided to call it off. And like, that was your, that was your bad. You messed it up something along those lines. And, you know, I remember kind of rolling my eyes at it, but I, at that moment I had already.

enough time had gone by that I knew I had made the right decision. And I didn’t regret my decision at that point, but it still hurt, you know, so people still said things,

but people are going to have their thoughts and their opinions and that’s okay. So this isn’t the part of the podcast episode where I start. Coaching and actually giving tips. I wanted to go back to the other examples, the food blog, for example, and also leaving a six figure tech job. People had a lot of thoughts about me leaving a quote unquote secure job to follow my passion.

A lot of people thought I had lost it. They were like, she has this job that pays her over six figures that allows her to travel the world that lets her work from home. It’s the middle of the pandemic. A lot of people were laid off and she’s walking away from a job. And you know what? They were right. It was crazy It was crazy and I don’t regret it at all But if we look at it from the outside, it sounds silly.

It sounds silly. It really does And remember people’s opinions are limited to their point of view and their reality so My cousin and my aunt and uncle, they’ve been married to the same person since they were in their teens, right? So their perception of reality is that you meet somebody and you marry them and you make it work.

It wasn’t, Oh my gosh, go find a fulfilling life. And now if we think about the career, they didn’t have the opportunity to go to work in the tech industry because it’s a fairly new industry and they didn’t have the education or the access. And, and I did. And from their perspectives, right, or my family’s perspective, specifically, like it was my mom and other people had made comments.

I don’t remember exactly what was said, but people really were like, is she crazy to leave this job when she doesn’t even realize how good she has it? And the thing is, I did realize how good I had it. And I also realized that my mom didn’t clean houses my whole life. For me to be in a job where I was Unhappy even though it was paying me.

Well if I had access to education and I had access to This idea that I really wanted to give back to the community Why was I going to settle for less? Was I grateful for the tech job? Heck? Yes I don’t regret a day of my life that I worked in tech. I wouldn’t be running a business the way that I’m running it if it wasn’t for my experience in tech.

But if I would have let other people’s opinions dictate my decisions, I would never be here. Did they stop me and derail me for a while? They sure did. Especially people in the tech industry and colleagues and people whom I respected where obviously they were in the tech industry because that was their version of success.

But I remember I had one good friend that was like, you could be making over 200, 000 at Facebook right now doing the same role that you’re doing at the company that you’re currently at. And you know what? Maybe I could have. But being an entrepreneur, there’s no limit to how much you can make. And I remember when I left tech, I said, if I only make 20, 000 my first year, I will stick with it.

I was willing and prepared to not make much because I wanted it so bad. So. Those are two examples. Actually, we went over three examples, right? We talked about calling off the engagement and the people, other people’s opinions there. We also talked about the food blog and how long it actually took me and what some of my worries were.

Obviously I no longer have a food blog that transitioned into a wellness blog when I became a yoga instructor. And then when the pandemic hit, I transitioned from yoga teaching into coaching. I just started doing the self development and mindfulness stuff online. And then. Born was Courage Driven Latina and Magnetic Mastermind and Chingona Revolution podcast.

So those are, that’s kind of the flow of how, of how this happened. But even now, right, people are going to have opinions of me. And it’s so much easier for me to brush it off now. And not even, honestly, not even really focus. I don’t even know exactly what people are saying. I don’t really care. I don’t care.

But I’m going to tell you why and there’s, there’s a secret and there’s a method and that’s what it is that we are going to go over. But before I go into that, so the first part, I just wanted to share some stories. And then the second part is why is it that we actually do care about other people’s opinions?

So The first one is cultural conditioning, right? So there is this cultural norm if you are a person of color, if you are a daughter of immigrants, or a child of immigrants, if you are from the Hispanic culture, Latina culture, the saying of calladita te ves mas bonita, which the literal translation is you look prettier when you’re quiet, or the translation in English, or the saying in English.

The one that’s not literal, but like the equivalent saying is women should be seen and not heard. So when we’ve been fed this narrative culturally, we are really just taught that we look prettier whenever we are just reserved and quiet and that we should listen to other people’s opinions. And these phrases are actually really rooted in survival mechanisms and they don’t really serve us today, right?

But if we think about Just historically, what our families have gone through, if you come from an underserved community or if you come from immigrant parents, they’re literally in survival mode, right? So this idea of not worrying about other people’s opinion is foreign to us, especially because at Latine culture is very focused on community.

There’s many times when multiple generations live together. So the decisions that you make aren’t just for you. It’s not individualistic. The way that the United States is when you make decisions, you’re thinking about other people as well. And this is very similar in other cultures. Like a lot of my good friends that are Asian or like my client, my client, Kay, who’s Filipina.

Perfect example, right? Like multi generational families living together, like multiple generations are living together, and the decisions that you make aren’t individualistic. It’s supposed to be for the community, which makes sense, but we no longer live in that type of setting, and especially if you are in the United States.

It is more of an individualistic society and is it which one’s right, which one’s wrong? There’s no right or wrong. It’s really what you decide to do because what I have found, if you’re listening to this podcast, you actually really do care about your community and you really do care about your family.

So. Would following your individual goals, even if your parents or your friends or your family don’t fully understand or support you, would it still benefit them? So let me give you the example. For me, my mom had a lot of reservations of me going into entrepreneurship full time. I’m leaving tech and it felt like a selfish decision to go after what it was that I wanted.

But in the end, it actually has served my mom so much. I’ve generated a lot more wealth being an entrepreneur than I did working in the tech industry. It has allowed me a ton of flexibility. I was able to move to Mexico and be there while we were building her retirement home in Mexico because I had location freedom.

I have been able to fly her out to Conferences or she’s been able to help me during different events. She’s been on my payroll many times. I mean, this is also still a newish business, right? But I hope that this business is also going to support my mom in funding her retirement. Because to this day, this woman still cleans houses.

She is not retired yet. By the way, if you haven’t listened to the episode that I recorded with my mom, it’s all in Spanish. But I do translate it to English as we are seeing. And it’s a good episode. So check it out. I think it’s called mother’s day special. It came out in around May. We, we released it around mother’s day.

So check that out. But point is it felt like a selfish decision, but it was actually a selfless decision. How could I allow myself to reach a new level of potential? Because I know that when I do it’s going to benefit everybody in my family. So just to recap what I just mentioned, cultural conditioning is what, is the reason why we care so much about other people’s opinions. So sayings like calladita te ves mas bonita or this social pressure or cultural pressure I should say that Encourages encourages us to make decisions that are beneficial to the community versus ourselves or that are more beneficial for the family versus ourselves.

Another reason why we care so much about other people’s opinion is honestly, the fear of rejection. Humans really are wired for belonging. We want to seek belonging. We want to feel connected. But the fear of rejection comes at the cost. Of self expression. It comes at the cost of really being who we want to be because we don’t want to be rejected.

So it’s like, how can we just be status quo and blend in and that stops us a lot. Remember when I said one of my fears about the food blog is what if I fail in front of everybody? I mean, that was also a fear with this business when I left tech, but I think at that point. I had already done so much of the inner work and I was just like, if I fail, I can go back to tech, like I could just go back to tech.

Nothing bad is actually going to happen. But this fear of rejection and fear of not belonging anymore was a real fear for me with the food blog. The other one is societal expectations. So there is a lot of pressure on first gens to make. All of our parents sacrifice is worth it, right? Or if you’re an immigrant yourself, it’s like, oh, I should just be, you know, grateful for what I have.

How could I possibly let my family down? How could I, how could I let the people around me down? I’m just going to stay where I am because I know that this works. Yet again, we’re feeling like Oh, that little, that little tug of, I should be doing this other thing. Or I really want to explore this other goal of mine.

And I want to be really clear, even if you’re like, wait, I love my job. I just want to like start creating content too. This is still relevant for you, right? I’m just using examples from my own life. This does not mean that I’m encouraging you all to go leave a high paying job and that you have to go follow entrepreneurship.

This isn’t even about entrepreneurship. This is literally about how you can identify the things that you feel called to do and not let the fear of other people’s opinions stop you from going after what it is that you want. Now I’d like to talk to you about why worrying about other people’s opinions keeps you stuck. I mean, they seem pretty obvious, but I’m still going to list them out. 

So why is it important? Two, overcome the fear of other people’s opinions. So let’s say that you have a goal of creating content or launching a podcast or starting a business or dating or really working on your confidence or taking a course or taking a trip, you know, whatever it is that’s on your vision board, whatever it is that keeps coming back to you in your mind of, Oh man, I really wish I could do that.

Why is it important that. You go after that thing that you want and stop worrying about other people’s opinions. So this is obviously very obvious, but your dreams are literally put on hold, right? So when we’re worried about other people’s opinions, we’re going to procrastinate and really lean into perfectionism.

And It’s going to be really hard to start at all, but the only person who’s really suffering is you, right? It’s your dreams that are put on hold. Those other people’s dreams are not put on hold and no one else is paying the price. So they’re not going to have any regrets that you didn’t go after your dreams because they probably don’t even know what your dreams are.

But you will have regrets. So that’s why this is really important to address and that’s why this podcast episode is really important. And I want to talk to you about how can you stop worrying about other people’s opinion. So I’m gonna just be really honest with you all. And this is something that took me a minute to find out, but once I figured this out, I feel like it made everything else so much better.

So as you’re sitting here listening to this podcast, you are digesting all of the information from your point of view. Right? In no, no moment in this podcast episode have you been thinking, Oh man, my cousin Susie really needs to hear this or, Oh my, my friend Cynthia, this is really going to be relevant for her.

No, you were all thinking about your life, about your goals, about the people’s opinions that you are worried about. So what does that say? That says that we as humans are kind of self centered y’all. We’re worried about ourselves. And I’m not shaming you. This is human nature. Same with me, right? Whenever I’m reading a self help book, I’m like, ah, this is how I apply it to my life.

But if you can all agree with me that that is true, then the same thing is true for all of those people whose opinion you are worried about, right? Are you worried about, Your Tia Luisa saying blah, blah, blah about you, your, your Aunt Susan, I don’t know why I keep using the word Susie, the name Susie, I’m just literally making up names, but, 

 so these people, right, whose opinions you’re, you’re worried about. They are also human beings and they are not spending their entire day worrying about you and what you are doing. Even if it feels that way during the holidays or at the Thanksgiving table or at the Christmas table, People are not worried about you.

People are so much more worried about themselves, about their lives, about the problems they have, about the desires they have, about the dreams that they want to reach, that they aren’t even worried about you. So here we are, holding ourselves back from doing something that we want to do because we fear other people’s opinion of us.

And what are they doing? They’re over there, worried about their own life. Maybe, worrying about the opinion you have of them. Have you ever thought about that? How many people think about you, and what you might think about them? And how many people might not be starting on something, because they’re afraid you might judge them?

I hope I just, like, blew your mind right now, because this is a real ass thing. I’ve had friends confess to me, with like, oh, I wasn’t sure how you were gonna take this. And now I’ve made it a very important part of my life to remind people that they should go after what they want. Even if I don’t understand it, even if I don’t get it.

Right. So we’re sitting here worried about, Oh man, what are these people going to think about me? And those people are worried about themselves or maybe even worried about you. So the first way to stop worrying about what people are going to think about you is remember, they’re more worried about themselves.

They really are. And if it’s going to make you feel better, talk to the person whose opinion you’re worried about. And if it’s a parent and you’re like, Oh no, I’ve already talked to them about it. Your parents don’t have to understand your journey and your desires and your goals for you to go after it.

Because my mom is my biggest supporter now. And when I told her I was leaving tech, she was the person who was the most freaked out.

Okay, so one, remember. People are so much more worried about themselves and worried about you. Are they actually really thinking about you? How often are you thinking about what they’re doing and judging what they’re doing? Probably not very much. Cause you’re too busy thinking about you. Just like this whole podcast episode, you’ve been thinking about yourself.

So that is tip number one. It’s, it’s more of a mindset shift, right? But tip number one is remember that people aren’t worried about you. Tip number two, for how it is that you can stop worrying about other people’s opinions, is recognize whose opinion actually matters. Remember earlier when I talked about the food blog and I was worried about all my friends, my, my ex fiancé’s friends were gonna think about the food blog?

Do you think I’ve ever seen these people in my life since we called off the engagement? No! Of course not. And I was over here wor you think they even cared that I launched a food blog? They probably didn’t even follow the page. They weren’t worried about it. Are you kidding me? I feel like I re I went right back to point number one. But recognize whose opinion actually matters. So here’s the thing, y’all. Sometimes we’re worried about other people’s opinions. And these people may not even understand where we’re going or what it is that we’re trying to do. So have you ever heard that a gym, um, I’m sorry, a bodybuilder would never judge you for going to the gym, right?

Or an author would never judge you for starting to write. Or, like me as a courage coach, I’m never going to judge you for wanting to start a clothing line or, starting to date or maybe. It’s like, nothing is going to sound crazy to me. Like, if you want to do it, you need to do it. That’s kind of my thing, right?

Cause this is literally what I help people with. And at this point I’ve seen 250 clients that I’ve worked with go from either lacking clarity to having a fully executed business or from lacking confidence to being the most confident version of themselves. So for me, it’s like my, my concept of reality is that of course, whatever you want to do is possible.

You just have to. actually want to do it and you actually have to take the action towards it. So, as I mentioned, you know, whose opinion actually matters, that is what I mean. How can you shift your mindset? Because here’s the thing, we do care what people think, but whose opinion do you care about? Like, whose opinion actually matters?

Do the people’s opinion that you care about, have those people done what it is that you’re trying to do? Because that’s the opinion you should care about, right? If you are trying to write a book and you speak to 10 authors, you should probably listen to what they’re saying because they’ve already been down that road.

But if you’re talking to your aunt at the dinner table, who’s never even read a book in her life or written a book, Is that really the person you want to take their opinion? Like that, it’s not that the opinion doesn’t have, value.

It’s that it doesn’t serve you. And it really doesn’t. Meet the context that doesn’t make any sense for you to take that opinion, right? It’s like you would never go to a weight loss coach and talk to them about Um, I don’t know what something talk to them about like what’s happening with your car So why are we doing that with our family?

Why are we expecting for them to understand everything is that it is that we’re trying to do? So if you are going to care about people’s opinion, which you are care about the people’s opinion That actually matter for this dream of yours. So let’s say that you want to go create financial literacy content for women.

Worry about the opinion of the women who need to hear yourself. Don’t worry about what your uncle Tom thinks. about finances and how he stores all his money underneath his, his mattress, right? That’s not the person you want to go to. So if

 you’re going to worry about people’s opinions, worry about the people’s opinions who have already been where you want to go or who are on their way to where you want to go. This is why it’s so important to find a supportive community, which is the next point. Finding a supportive community is so important.

Finding people who get it. It makes the world of a difference. It gives you a space to feel connected and to talk to people about the challenges that you’re experiencing and where it is that you want to go. If it wasn’t for my community of coach friends, I don’t think I would have a business today. I really don’t.

If I was still worried about People’s opinions who like weren’t in this industry. I wouldn’t have a business, but I do, and I have a great business and I love it. And I just saw my friends yesterday and it was like a reset button for my heart and my soul. And I was just so motivated to come in and record this podcast episode because Being surrounded by people who get what you’re doing, it doesn’t, it makes you feel validated.

It gives you motivation. It holds you accountable. It does so much for you. Another tip is reframing the fear of judgment. So the thing is judgment often says a lot more about the people judging than about you, right? So, Sometimes people are really just mad that they didn’t have the guts to do what you’re doing and sometimes that’s maybe where judgment comes from.

Let people have their thoughts. Let people have their opinions because you know what? You can’t control what they think or what they say anyway. So you might as well do what it is that you want. And the last thing is building self trust. How is it that you can? Trust yourself and know that you have your own back.

And even if you did fail, you’re going to learn so much from it and you’re going to be fine and you could keep trying, or you could go do something different. And it really, when you give yourself internal validation and build self trust, you’re no longer, you’re no longer looking at it or you’re no longer looking for it from other people outside of you. So let me try to recap. The tips that I just gave because I wrote them out and I read them all out of order. So let me, let me try this again. So the first one is remember that people are so much more worried about themselves than they are worried about you. So you’re over here worried about people’s opinions and they could not even be thinking about you.

They could be worried about what you think about them. Right? Let that blow your mind for a second. The next one is, recognize whose opinion actually matters. Do the people who are making opinions, who are making comments, do they align with your values? And have they done what you are trying to do? Because if they’re not, in the same area, in the arena, in your industry, their opinion should not matter.

Because it’s just apples and oranges. Very different, right? The next one is finding a supportive community. Finding people who get it is going to ensure that you do not give up. The next one is reframe the fear of judgment. Because remember, judgment says so much more about the person judging than it does about yourself.

And last but not least, Build self trust. When you can trust yourself and have your back no matter what, you are no longer looking for outside validation. You can validate yourself. So a journal prompt that I have for you all is, what would you do If no one else’s opinion mattered, what’s one small step that you can take today to move closer to that?

All right, y’all, this was supposed to be like a super fast episode, but I had fun with it because this is such an important topic. And I know I’ve done similar podcast episodes, but I don’t think I’ve done anything this thorough. And also I’ve been in business for a little longer now, right? I’ve supported a lot of clients.

It’s through this big, big block really can feel paralyzing sometimes. And I just learned a lot more in the last few years. So I felt like we needed an updated version of this podcast episode. 

And I just wanted to remind you all that I do have an upcoming webinar on December 9th at 5 PM Pacific time. It is titled how to make 2025 your courage year, how to create massive change in your life and business in 90 days without. overthinking. We are going to touch a little bit on this topic, not as thorough as I went through it today, but I am going to share three different strategies to help you start your project and overcome this fear.

Obviously I gave you some tips today, but what I’m going to be sharing on the webinar are actual strategies that I take my clients through, help them go from, I’m afraid of what people might think about me, to a fully executed dream project, whether it’s a business or a podcast or content creation. So I cannot wait to see you there.

Please bring a friend, bring somebody, because when you do something like this with your friend, you can hold each other accountable. So be sure to forward the invite to your friend. You can just go to CourageDrivenLatina. com. The link is down below in the show notes as well. I can’t wait to see you there.

And after the webinar, we are going to open doors for Courage Driven Latina. I’ve gotten a few DMs and questions about it. We are opening doors for the last time this year. So I will be talking about that at the end of the webinar. So be sure to register. If you can’t make it live, don’t worry. We send out the replay and I can’t wait to see you then.

Thanks everyone. Bye.